This work is a personal and public meditation on what we hold onto, what we let go of, how we remember others and how we’re remembered. We are at a historical moment in which so many people are navigating the difficult world of care giving for aging and ill parents and yet simultaneously having to reconcile old family dynamics. Here, I reflect on my adoring and abusive father which gives way to emerging and interlocking themes that also become central: domestic violence, marriage, divorce, only children, aging, illness, death, food, shifting dimensions of social class, and gender and race in care giving.
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